You can miss it...and still not want it back.

We’re all being asked to evolve in a time that’s rapidly changing. The world isn’t what it once was. Our survival—our expansion—depends on our ability to respond with more clarity, less noise.

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about what we carry. How it lives in our system.
How overstimulated we’ve become by the lives of others—especially on social media.

The past few days, something’s been sitting heavy on my heart. I came across a piece of devastating news about a TikTok creator I’ve followed loosely over the years—her son was in a tragic accident. I don’t know her personally, but because she shares so much of her life, I felt like I did. And it rocked me. The news, the comments, the flood of people grieving online. The weight of it all.

It made me stop and reflect on just how much we’re holding. Every day. News. Faces. Emotions that aren’t ours but somehow become ours.

This isn’t to say we shouldn’t care. We’re meant to care. But I think we’ve forgotten how much our nervous systems can actually hold. I found myself unable to shake the grief I felt—and I realized how deeply tethered I still was to stories that aren’t mine, content that keeps me out of my body, noise that leaves me overstimulated and undernourished.

And the timing of it hit me hard—because I’m in a chapter of my life where I’m being asked to go deeper. To refine. To focus. To build. To become.

I’ve been deep in my own process. Building BRÛLÉ. Rebuilding my foundation. Moving—physically, emotionally, and energetically—into a completely new phase. It’s not just the fresh space or new routines. It’s the internal shift. The knowing that something is breaking off and something else is trying to come through.

If you’re anything like me, maybe you’ve felt it too. That quiet pull inward. That feeling of grief in the air that’s hard to name. A hollowing out. A moment of reckoning that says, “This next version of you will require new patterns, new presence, and new priorities.”

And with that shift—grief. Not just sadness, but the ache of nostalgia. The quiet missing of a former version of life, even if you know it’s not the one you want to return to.

Today, after another long call with my best friend Eric (we talk daily…for the past five years— for hours and hours at a time), I was sharing about how much I’ve been feeling. Not just about my own life, but about the collective heaviness online. The overstimulation. The tragedies we witness in real time. I told him how I’m starting to feel allergic to the noise, to the overconsumption, to the sheer volume of it all.

And he sent me this:

That landed.

Because the truth is, when you’re stepping into something higher—your purpose, your next chapter, your becoming—you have to live at a different frequency. And that frequency doesn’t come from scrolling. It doesn’t come from coping mechanisms. It doesn’t come from passive consumption.

It comes from what you choose to do in the quiet moments.

For me, that’s looked like a stricter phone boundary at night. Waking up earlier. Cutting the noise. Cutting the wine. Making space. Writing. Moving. Creating more than I consume. That’s the frequency I want to live at.

And then, this afternoon, I came across another quote:

“You can miss it and still not want it back.”

And I realized: that’s the emotional piece I’ve been trying to name.

There are old friendships I miss. Old comforts. Old patterns. Sometimes I want to pick up the phone and call someone I no longer talk to. Sometimes I miss how things were—even when I know they no longer fit.

But that doesn’t mean I want them back.

We’re all being asked to evolve in a time that’s rapidly changing. The world isn’t what it once was. Our survival—our expansion—depends on our ability to respond with more clarity, less noise. More creation, less consumption.

So if you’re in the middle of your own shift…If you’re not sure what’s next but you know you can’t go back…

Let this be your reminder:
You can grieve it.
You can miss it.
You can feel all of it—and still decide to choose different.

I’m choosing different.

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Here is the MOOD for this week. Happy Monday

X,

KB

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