Wisdom is accepting that there are things you cannot force:
People change when they are ready. Creativity moves at its own rhythm. Healing does not have a time limit. Love blooms when things align.
Here’s my Monday Mood for the week. I’m doing it on a Wednesday. I’m in such a big expansion level of my life, and there’s one of me and what feels like an endless to-do list. I’m trying to get everything done in one day while also taking care of myself, because I truly believe that you’re only as good as your routines.
I just recently reset my body. Quit coffee (ily coffee i’ll be back someday on vaycay), and it felt absolutely incredible. I love having a baseline that really makes me feel at home in my body - it’s always been controversial but it’s my vibe. Just pure fruits and vegetables, maybe a little fish if I need, but basically eating like I’m always on a cleanse. If you used to get my Body Fwrd programs, you know exactly what I’m talking about. It’s not really a diet - it’s a way of life. A way of flow. Eating slowly and intentionally, while still being part of a world that’s moving so fast.
I can’t even get a hold of my days. They’re flying by. But I’m really making sure to take a lot of time in the mornings - setting intentions, journaling, ice to the face, cleansing my body, movement, connecting with my future self, and learning how to expand into the next levels I want to rise into.
Fear hasn’t come up but questioning has. I got really clear on the number I want BRÛLÉ to hit every month. Every week. And part of me is like, how the hell can I do that? Because it’s just me. I do the graphics. I do the website coding. I do the social media. I do the shipping. Customer service. Designing. I’m also in the factory every day. I have a dog who is like a child that I can barely stay on top of. And a house I like to keep immaculately clean - while knowing that in order to scale this business, I need more of my time freed up to do what I do best.
I have a meeting tomorrow to hopefully hire a virtual assistant to take on some admin work. But this moment - this exact season - is expansion. And with that comes beauty. Pressure. Unknowns. All the things I want to call in are places I haven’t been before. So I’m learning how to let go of the small things.
Like last week - I shipped out the white BRÛLÉ Button Down with the wrong buttons. Well, the right buttons but flipped the “wrong” way. I wanted them on the grey shiny side. They were put on the earthy matte side. The button machine had broke in my factory, so we had to send them out elsewhere to get finished. And they came back wrong. I was consumed for two days about it. And now I’m learning to let that go. I can’t get stuck in the small things anymore. I don’t have the space. Even though I want to dwell on it. But no. Keep going. That’s the shift. Wisdom is accepting the things you cannot force. I wanted everyone who purchased the button down to receive it in a timely matter. That was more important.
That brings me to today’s quote.
“Wisdom is accepting the things you cannot force. People change when they’re ready. Creativity moves at its own rhythm. Healing does not have a time limit. Love blooms when things align.”
I feel all of this…and I feel it deeply.
People change when they’re ready. I’ve really let go of people recently. Not in a condescending way, but because I don’t have the energy to carry what everyone else is feeling. It doesn’t mean I’m cold-hearted. It doesn’t mean I don’t love people. But I can’t be intertwined. Everyone is on their own journey. And I’ve gotten caught in the web of other people’s projections, their patterns, their feelings. I’ve been the kind of person who enters relationships and naturally “helps” people change - only because I embody being a fearless spearheader for growth. But then I get invested, intertwined, entangled… and that becomes my pattern. I’ve let go of that now.
Creativity moves at its own rhythm. That’s so real. You can’t force it. I feel so tapped in with BRÛLÉ. It’s like I’m in my zone. And it happened when I let go the most. It was like okay…you let go…good job…now….LETS GO! Creativity strikes on its own. Once you’re in it, it’s like a faucet you can turn on anytime - but you have to trust the rhythm and YOUR timing.
Healing does not have a time limit. When I spent my time in Austin, Texas, I kept thinking: tomorrow will feel better. Then the next day. Then the next. But healing doesn’t work like that. I haven’t shared much about what happened with my family, but it was a complete 180. My dad, who was my number one (well he’s still here, technically), but the version of him I knew is gone. Completely gone. I feel abandoned in some ways. Mind fucked. Hurt for my future wedding and babies. BUT it’s always something, you know? Two years ago it wasn’t my dad I was dwelling on. I’ve learnt that healing is forever. It doesn’t stop. I’m not in pain every day like I used to be. I feel “healed” in many ways (I hate when people say this). But that doesn’t mean I don’t still carry some of it. The difference is I’ve learned to live with it, and I think that’s what healing really is. Not a destination - but the ability to live with what once shattered you, and still keep going. You get stronger. Resilient. And the things that hurt the most don’t hurt as much anymore.
Love blooms when things align. And I trust that. I trust love because I trust who I’m becoming. I trust what I’m stepping into. I trust that first - I’m going to give myself the life I really want. Money. Travel. Creative freedom. Homes (if I want ‘em). Help with the laundry (I hate the laundry and housework - just being honest). A business that feels like my purpose and makes me so proud. I’m building that now. And when it’s time, love will come. I really believe that. Plus, I barely have time for my dog atm. All to say - I just trust.
This is the mood this week. Expansion. Routine. Focus. Discipline. Letting go of what’s out of your hands. And pouring everything you’ve got into what is.
You know who loves ya…
X,
KB